An inspirational quote can come from our own minds - they don't always come from Pinterest!
Yes - I too have my moments when everything is crystal clear and I give advice to myself - well, don't you?
The inspirational quote I have made here came to me after I thought about people who force the family to sit in church on Sunday while living very un-Christian lives in full view of their children.
Ok - so you may not find it inspiring - you may even find it offensive if you take your children to church.
Taking children to church is fine if they see you living the life of a Christian.Taking children to church is fine if they see you living the life of a Christian. Click To Tweet
However, if they see you living the life of a hypocrite (not loving they neighbour as thy self because thy neighbour has a nicer car for example), you are going to pay twice as heavily when your adorable little munchkin turns into a Kevin on the stroke of 13.
Let's face it, all kids get to that Kevin and Perry age. Not familiar with Kevin? You'd better watch this - especially if you have pre-teen boys.
Yes people - forget inspirational quotes - this is what you have coming if you have a pre-teen boy!
Dead on the stroke of 13, your angelic baby boy is going to turn on you. He will lose the power of speech (unless he needs a ride somewhere, some money or a new smart phone) and he will only grunt at you for the next five years, possibly more.Dead on the stroke of 13, your angelic baby boy is going to turn on you. Click To Tweet
Everything will be your fault. Whatever you do will be embarrassing. Any personal crisis you have that effects your teen's life will have been done deliberately, according to them, to piss the said teen off.
Seriously. I have been there. It was bad.
Of course, this may be a Brit thing. The Kevin syndrome may be peculiar to the UK. Does Canada, the US, India, China, South Africa, for example, have a problem with 12 year old boys suddenly wanting to be adopted because mother has become SO embarrassing?
I would love to know.
So, getting back to my inspirational quote - just how bad could it get if you lived an un-Christian life while forcing your kids spend Sunday in church?
Well, my kids didn't go to church, so I can't really say.
There is no way I could have walked the walk so I didn't think it was fair to make them listen to a vicar talking the talk on a Sunday.
It would have been confusing and hypocritical for them to have the 10 Commandments rammed down their throats while my life consisted of systematically breaking them.
Murder was quite easy not do do.
Adultery was more tricky at times.Murder was quite easy not do do. Adultery was more tricky at times. Click To Tweet
Stealing? Mmmm...the odd pencil from work I suppose, but still, stealing is stealing.
Working on a Sunday? Not my fault. Ironically, I often had to attend Civic church events on a Sunday when my kids were young. I was paid to take pictures of pious VIP people attending church events for which they were also paid. Civic hypocrites are the worst.
So yeah, another tricky one. I guess we were all offending God in his own house.
Coveting your neighbour's house/wife/servant/ox/donkey or anything that belongs to your neighbour? Does that mean your actual neighbour as in, next door?
If yes, then I am probably ok on that one. If no and 'neighbours' are whoever we share the planet with (and I strongly suspect they are) then I am sure I have coveted stuff I should not have been coveting.
The problem we have here is that covet means to 'desire wrongfully'. Mmmmm....I'm thinking Jon Bon Jovi, all of Led Zepplin, Marc Bolan (well I was only 18!), one of the Rolling Stones (not saying who), all of the Beatles, Slash, some of Guns 'n Roses, Jimi Hendrix, Elvis Presley in retrospect and my trainer at Vic Tanny's gym back in the day.
Desiring wrongfully, (coveting), may have been my most broken commandment now that I come to think of it.Desiring wrongfully, (coveting), may have been my most broken commandment now that I come to think of it. Click To Tweet
Or maybe misusing the name of the Lord my God? Constant use of OMG! is not good people. Just because it is shortened to OMG! does not let us off the hook.
Just for the record, when I write OMG! now, it means Oh. My. Goodness. So I am getting better.
Further, there have been times when I did not honour my father and mother.
It's quite hard to do that when you are supposed to be at youth club with other youth club aged people and yet, you find yourself in the worst pub in town with a joint in one hand and a Bacardi and Coke in the other while talking to a Charlie Manson lookalike.
All in all, I thought it best to stay away from hypocrisy as much as possible when my kids were young to prevent the inevitable confusion and questions when they saw me doing the exact opposite of what the vicar said was acceptable in life.
Afterall, children look up to us and get far too much of the old 'don't do as I do, do as I say' nonsense.
So what is my inspirational quote number two really saying?
It is this:
If you treat your own mother badly, for example, and yet you force religion down your children's throats, what do you say when they come home from Sunday school one day and ask what 'honoring thy father and mother' looks like?
If Grannie sits alone, and old, 600 miles away while opening meaningless, token Christmas presents, your kids will be confused about how you deal with that commandment.
If they don't see you doing it and only hear about it in church they will have real reasons to despise you when they hit 13 and start to figure things out.
We do enough hypocritical stuff in front of our kids without even thinking - so unless you live a totally blemish free Christian life - don't confuse your children with church, it will just cause them confusion and possibly emotional turmoil.We do enough hypocritical stuff in front of our kids without even thinking - it creates confusion. Click To Tweet
I know, I have seen it in action and the backlash can be catastrophic in adult life.
If you have an inspirational quote about keeping it real with your children, or any other thoughts on this - scroll down to the 'leave a reply box and talk to me.